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Anita Web Weaver's avatar

Hi, Chela, Thanks for this...I've got so many 'shoulds' operating right now, that my inner self has come to a screeching halt, saying, 'NO,' to some things I recently said 'Yes,' to. What your essay is opening for me is noticing which parts of myself are calling for attention right now that I seem to be mercilessly stepping on in my own push to Optimize my 'Beingness' in the guise of doing and accomplishment. Nothing wrong with doing and accomplishment but the time isn't right or I need to back off from the harshness of the push...I've been ignoring something deeper within; it's time to stop/pause and look. So here I am and here I'll allow myself to stay for awhile...Thank you for reminding me that letting my inner imperatives lead is just what is called for now...Blessings and love...

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Elizabeth DiAlto's avatar

I often blame it on my Capricorn moon but I stopped judging myself for anything years ago. What still comes up though, is a feeling that I should be judging myself. The conditioning towards remaining forever dissatisfied with ourselves as women is so fucking deep!

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Ale Vanderput's avatar

So human! Spot on and beautifully written as always. I feel like the main catalyst deep down to me is also survival. Beyond all external influences, how to have the financial means to have a comfortable life, provide and not get trapped in the exhaustive rat race and or shame for not being with everything in order for financial security? Thank you for this. <3

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Jeff Tobias's avatar

This is so appreciated and necessary. I have ADHD and a nervous system that feels like it's always firing. I'm also trying to optimize holistically. What a great reminder to simply rest and allow that to nourish me. Thank you.

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