I have found that people who are true elders become aware of their ignorance and limited perception as they age. We also recognize the complete failure of the older generation (boomers) willingness to step down from the power roles. It makes us hesitant to offer solutions. The breathtaking speed of information makes it feel impossible to "know" something. Also, for me, there is also a sense of being complicit in this mess as I recognize the same damn faultlines being exposed. We had just swept them under the rug.
Regarding the topic of the article, your point about 'internet-induced self-perception dysmorphia' is realy spot on. It's a challenge we see every day.
Brilliant framing of the mid-life competance paradox. The part about compensatory patterns unravelling really landed. Ive watched colleagues who seem unstoppable suddenly question everything, and it does seem tied to finally seeing through old coping mechanisms thatworked until they didn't.
Dude. Real. On point. Illuminating. I'm certainly hanging in this self-doubt bucket. It's nice to know that I'm not alone and that those with clear capability also suffer from this. It makes it easier to roll with rather than feel the need to combat and fix. To stop believing your own bullshit. We're all just awkward 13-year-olds or existentially in crisis 20-somethings. So... there must be something inherent to this phase.
I'd love a bi-weekly urgency shake and external reminder.
As you said, there is something to the more you know, the less you know that lends contributive essence.
That damn onion metaphor, while simple and accurate, is WILDLY tired. Who is THAT into onions anyway. I don't know why we don't discuss it like a good flakey puff pastry. Or an archeological dig. Sure, one makes your eyes water. But the others are much more satisfying to peel away. And if I hear about the ol' "lion in the bushes" one more time... freak city, full on body revulsions... it all just gets so cliche and boring. Parrot, parrot, parrot. Consume and rebabble rather than lived wisdom. We need to elevate these ideas with new language, to keep it fresh so our eyes stay lifted to the horizon rather than dry out. PUT THE ONIONS AND LIONS AWAY.
"Naw, just kidding, you’re fucked."- so good... thanks for the laugh.
I’m glad you’re joining me on the pastry framework. “Buttery” is lush. You’re spot on. Literally no one ever talks about what’s in the center of the onion. What happens THERE? Just… more onion. The metaphor’s bottom falls out at that point.
But listen… we know it’s ultimately just a descriptive tool. Literality only goes so far. Still… an update.
Lions (and tigers) and bears… OH MY! 😜potato, po-tah-toe✔️(let’s get real… who says potahtoe?) You’ve missed nothing. You knew.
Omg I love this comment. Thank you. I mean, eventually you get to the center of the onion right?
But wait…what’s the lion metaphor? Is it the same as the “being chased by a bear” metaphor? Or have I MISSED OUT ON A TROPE?!
I shall forever more think of my developmental adventures as a flakey pastry, crunchy layer by crunchy layer until I finally find that soft, buttery perfection that is my true self. 😂🥰
I have found that people who are true elders become aware of their ignorance and limited perception as they age. We also recognize the complete failure of the older generation (boomers) willingness to step down from the power roles. It makes us hesitant to offer solutions. The breathtaking speed of information makes it feel impossible to "know" something. Also, for me, there is also a sense of being complicit in this mess as I recognize the same damn faultlines being exposed. We had just swept them under the rug.
Regarding the topic of the article, your point about 'internet-induced self-perception dysmorphia' is realy spot on. It's a challenge we see every day.
Brilliant framing of the mid-life competance paradox. The part about compensatory patterns unravelling really landed. Ive watched colleagues who seem unstoppable suddenly question everything, and it does seem tied to finally seeing through old coping mechanisms thatworked until they didn't.
Dude. Real. On point. Illuminating. I'm certainly hanging in this self-doubt bucket. It's nice to know that I'm not alone and that those with clear capability also suffer from this. It makes it easier to roll with rather than feel the need to combat and fix. To stop believing your own bullshit. We're all just awkward 13-year-olds or existentially in crisis 20-somethings. So... there must be something inherent to this phase.
I'd love a bi-weekly urgency shake and external reminder.
As you said, there is something to the more you know, the less you know that lends contributive essence.
That damn onion metaphor, while simple and accurate, is WILDLY tired. Who is THAT into onions anyway. I don't know why we don't discuss it like a good flakey puff pastry. Or an archeological dig. Sure, one makes your eyes water. But the others are much more satisfying to peel away. And if I hear about the ol' "lion in the bushes" one more time... freak city, full on body revulsions... it all just gets so cliche and boring. Parrot, parrot, parrot. Consume and rebabble rather than lived wisdom. We need to elevate these ideas with new language, to keep it fresh so our eyes stay lifted to the horizon rather than dry out. PUT THE ONIONS AND LIONS AWAY.
"Naw, just kidding, you’re fucked."- so good... thanks for the laugh.
Yeah. We def get that center. ✔️
I’m glad you’re joining me on the pastry framework. “Buttery” is lush. You’re spot on. Literally no one ever talks about what’s in the center of the onion. What happens THERE? Just… more onion. The metaphor’s bottom falls out at that point.
But listen… we know it’s ultimately just a descriptive tool. Literality only goes so far. Still… an update.
Lions (and tigers) and bears… OH MY! 😜potato, po-tah-toe✔️(let’s get real… who says potahtoe?) You’ve missed nothing. You knew.
🧅➡️🥐➗🍌(🔁)✖️♾️🟰✨🧈✨
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Omg I love this comment. Thank you. I mean, eventually you get to the center of the onion right?
But wait…what’s the lion metaphor? Is it the same as the “being chased by a bear” metaphor? Or have I MISSED OUT ON A TROPE?!
I shall forever more think of my developmental adventures as a flakey pastry, crunchy layer by crunchy layer until I finally find that soft, buttery perfection that is my true self. 😂🥰
Well said chela!!! Very affirming.